We all know we’re supposed to set boundaries. We’re supposed to speak up when someone says something hurtful, we’re supposed to say no when we don’t want to do something, we’re supposed to stand up for ourselves, even if it seems impolite. Setting boundaries helps us stay balanced, not get overworked or overwhelmed, and they […]

Do you ever make things harder for yourself? You do something that feels good in the moment, but you know it will make you feel worse later? And somehow you just can’t help yourself? People call this self-sabotage, but let’s explore it differently. We don’t self-sabotage on purpose. It’s not like we want to make […]

Understanding and Overcoming Stress Stress is the bane of my existence.  On a personal level I’m always trying to manage it, because I like to do lots of things. One thing finishes and I’m already onto the next. I have big dreams, big ideas and like to learn and grow, which means that life definitely […]

Welcome to the XO Conversations Podcast! I’m your curious host Rishma Walji. This podcast is all about personal growth and loving life, usually with a research and science twist.  If you want to live your own extraordinary life, take my free quiz to find out your decision style. And you can get insider access information […]

I have a love-hate relationship with social media. I’m perpetually on the verge of deleting all my accounts.  But even though many people want to limit their social media usage, it’s really hard to completely leave.  Let me start by confessing that a post on social media literally changed my life. Ok that might be […]

Today I’m talking with Dr. Aimie Apigian. She is a leading medical expert on how life experiences get stored in the body and restore the body to its best state of health through her signature model and methodology, the biology of trauma. In addition to her medical training, she’s also a functional medicine physician, and […]

Deep dive into perfectionism, self critique and compassion. How do you know if you need to be perfect, or if it’s OK to be good enough?

There’s something significant that sits underneath these two parts of burnout – managing the demands of life on one side, and coping with stress on the other. Something more that impacts us on a deeper level and put us at risk for burnout in a more profound way.