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We all know we’re supposed to set boundaries. We’re supposed to speak up when someone says something hurtful, we’re supposed to say no when we don’t want to do something, we’re supposed to stand up for ourselves, even if it seems impolite. Setting boundaries helps us stay balanced, not get overworked or overwhelmed, and they […]

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Relationships

How to get people to give you better advice

Have you ever had that awkward moment  when you have something on your mind, you’re pouring out your heart to someone, and they say ALL the wrong things?  Today we’re going to talk about guiding conversations to ensure that people don’t just hear us, but truly understand us too.  Welcome back to the XO Conversations […]

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Mindset

The Labels We Give Ourselves And Why They Matter

Feeling Stuck In Your Identity Have you ever been labeled, either by someone else or yourself, and felt like it held you back? Like it almost boxed you into an identity that you couldn’t break out of?  Even words that might sound neutral can be limiting.  For example the word expert can be a way […]

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Mindset

An ‘Above Average’ Approach To Life

Challenging Expectations: A Lesson in Intentional Decision-Making Today, I’m going to share a little story with you about expectations, norms, and about what it means to challenge them. It’s about a day, a line, and a lesson that’s stayed with me longer than I ever thought it would. I’m Rishma Walji, and you’re listening to […]

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Family

The Accidental Heirloom

A Story of Love, Loss and Legacy “Beauty lies not just in objects, but in the stories they carry and the connections they deepen.” Welcome to the XO Conversations podcast, where we delve deep into the essence of living intentionally. I’m Dr. Rishma Walji, and today, I bring you a story that belongs to generations […]

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Finding Joy

How to Deepen Your Gratitude Practice

From Meh To Meaningful A few summers ago, my daughter had a run of tough events. She had a nasty fall off her bike, she caught a bad cold that meant she had to miss a friend’s birthday party and she found out that she needed braces 🙁  Any one of those things would have […]

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Blog

Break the Self-Sabotage Cycle

Do you ever make things harder for yourself? You do something that feels good in the moment, but you know it will make you feel worse later? And somehow you just can’t help yourself? People call this self-sabotage, but let’s explore it differently. We don’t self-sabotage on purpose. It’s not like we want to make […]

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How to Talk To Your Kids About Gender and Sexuality

Here are some themes that came up in this podcast episode. Listen or watch to get all the details. How to Start Conversations About Sex and Gender with Kids? How to Stay Open and Avoid Imposing Biases on Kids? Balancing Safety and Independence: How to Teach Kids Consent and Boundaries? Why Include the Pleasure Aspect […]

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Beyond Logic: Emotions In Decision Making

People always say we should make decisions rationally, logically, without emotion.  * Try telling that to someone is deciding if they should quit their job and give up everything to move across the country so they can live with someone they love.  * Try telling that to a woman who just had a miscarriage and is deciding […]

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Growth

Intentional Living While Staying True to Yourself

I’ve always been an independent thinker. I like to follow my own rules, I don’t like to be told what to do, and I am full of ambition (though what that ambition looks like has changed over the years).  While some little girls dream of their wedding day and who they will eventually marry, I […]

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Hi, I'm Rishma.
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I ran a thriving healthcare practice as a Naturopathic Doctor and Acupuncturist for over 20 years. I also earned my PhD and spent time in academic research and teaching positions. Now, I read scientific studies because I'm passionate about personal growth. I use the insights to help me, and our community, live our own XO life.

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